Monday, March 17, 2008

a new normal

I didn’t even notice her. She was sitting on the other side of the room. The speaker, Jaynee, held up a beautiful tiered cake platter and showed us how she had glued silver butterflies at each edge, to cover up the chips. How clever, I think.

And then a conference worker walked right into our classroom and interrupted Jaynee in mid-sentence. She called a woman out by name, a name I can’t for the life of me remember now. But the woman stood up right away, and together they filed out of the room. Jaynee paused, and then she took a break from talking about loaf pans and how to cut crumbly cakes and she prayed for this woman that none of us had noticed before.

After the workshop, I helped Jaynee pack up all of her dishes and tablecloths. “I’m concerned for that woman,” she told me. “In all of my years speaking at Hearts at Home, if they have to pull someone out of a workshop, they always mention that it’s not an emergency so women don’t worry. She didn’t say that this time.”

A few minutes later the golf cart guy wandered in. “Will you ladies need a ride?” He asked.

“We will,” I responded.

“Do you know anything about the woman who was pulled out of my workshop?” Jaynee asked.

“Yes,” he said with a long, heavy sigh, “her husband collapsed this afternoon. He had a heart attack and died.”

We continued packing up dishes in silent, tearful prayer. And this morning, I find myself weeping again for this young mother, praying for her this Monday morning as she finds a way through the dark wilderness of grief, somehow forging out a new normal for herself and her children.

12 comments:

Marmot Mom said...

Thanks for putting my day into perspective. Do you remember our "old" pastor saying "one out of every one person will die?" I think about that a lot. Knowing the moment is coming, but never knowing when is a huge responsibility. The question always is: am I doing everything I can in my little world to prepare myself and others? I will also be praying for this sweet mom. Thanks.

FrazzMom said...

I have two friends here who are now discovering 'new normal' for their lives. One is a recent widow (my age- three kids ages 13-16) the other's husband was just diagnosed with a heart virus and is critically ill and in need of a heart transplant (but doesn't qualify unless they can get the virus under control).

I pray for each of these women daily. And in doing so, it certainly puts my own 'problems' in perspective...

addhumorandfaith said...

In the "twinkling of an eye" our lives can change. "There but for the grace of God go I." I hope she is surrounded by family and friends who can pray specifically for her needs and be there for her and her children.

Christine, Queen of the Crazies said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. We just never know. Praying for her.

Llama Momma said...

Marmot Mom -- Yes, do remember that. I also remember him saying, "Sometimes when you air your dirty laundry, all you get is a big pile of stinking laundry." I so disagree with that one. ;-)

FrazzMom -- I cannot imagine.

Llama Momma said...

add humor -- Yes. This is my prayer too.

Christine -- thanks for stopping by and commenting...it's so true -- we just never know.

Dana J. Tuszke said...

Oh my goodness. How devastating. I can only pray for her as well. God be with her.

Shari Schmidt said...

I have an uncle who dies when his three children were all younger than 5. I wouldn't wish that new normal on anyone. It did teach me to be truly grateful for each day. Even when we're having really bad days, I always tell my husband it could be much worse. At least we're all together and healthy.

Mommy Cracked said...

Wow, my heart goes out to that woman. I can't even imagine...

23 degrees said...

praying with you

TJ Wilson said...

LM - A new normal for sure - ugh. Thanks for writing this.

Don Mills Diva said...

How incredibly sad. Your wrote this so beautifully it really does put things in perspective...