Tuesday, July 28, 2009

pain

One day at a time. This is our motto around here. Along with, this will not last forever.

Twin A. is still uncomfortable whenever he moves. We’re managing the pain as well as we can, and doing lots of deep breathing to try to relax. Last night he told me the fear of the pain is actually worse than the pain itself. He has been through so much.

The Llama Papa took our other two boys on to the family reunion campout in Michigan. (God bless him.) A. is sad to miss it, but has no desire to drive 3+ hours, even if we stay in a hotel. We’ve promised him a campout when he recovers.

And today is the toddler’s third birthday. For the last six months, he’s been talking about his “birthday party on the camping trip.” So I loaded him down with Elmo partyware and wrapped presents, and expect that he’ll fully enjoy his special day today. And, of course, we’ll have another party at home sometime next week. But in the quiet of this morning, can I just admit to you all that I’m hating this? Those of you who know The Toddler personally know that he is a bundle of energy and personality, and absolutely delightful. I hate missing his camping birthday party. Happy birthday, little buddy. Mommy can’t wait to throw you another birthday bash and watch your face light up with each new surprise.

The hardest part of this whole thing has been watching Twin A. in pain and being unable to fully take it away. Or worse, actually causing the pain. A few times a day, I need to help A. elevate his arm. It hurts to get in this position, but is essential for his healing. Moving him around while he cries for me to stop is the hardest thing I’ve had to do as a mom.

I’ve thought more than once about how God must feel with me at times, pushing me to look at places that are painful while I scream “stop!” And yet He knows what’s best for me. I believe this. And just like my heart skips a beat when A. chooses to trust me, even though it’s going to hurt, I have to believe God is thrilled when we choose to trust Him just a little bit more.

One of the things I’m most thankful for are the seeds of faith planted in A.’s heart. In the most difficult moments, he says, “I want to pray.” He told me he wishes God would just magically heal his arm, even though he knows that’s not how it usually works. We’ve talked about what God HAS promised us: that He’ll always be with us, no matter what.
So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you. (Deuteronomy 31:6)

I’m also thankful for incredible friends and neighbors, who keep sending cards and dropping by with goodies and movies and games. And I’m incredibly thankful for my friend, S., who has some downtime before her classes start, and offered to come stay with us for a few days. I can’t imagine this past few days without her, honestly.

God is good. God is faithful. God is trustworthy.

This is what we’re learning over here…well, that and that malt chip blizzards from DQ are really, really good.

7 comments:

everydayMOM said...

So sorry to hear all that you are going through. I feel so bad for A... heard about how horrible it was from LS. Ugh. Not to mention missing the camping trip and the birthday... praying that God will surround the two of you with his love and give A some pain-free moments to enjoy your time together!

megs @ whadusay said...

I was thinking about you this morning and said a prayer. Will continue praying..

That really stinks having to miss the camping birthday party and see your son in pain.

Thank you for sharing the lessons you are learning. They really blessed me this morning.

Raising Cains said...

thanks for your honesty and your thoughts friend.

Sarah said...

Praying for you and Twin A. HUGS!

Maria Dodson said...

Oh you sweet lady. i feel for you. praying for you guys.

Marmot Mom said...

Whoa, LM. I've been in CA for the last week and didn't realize all you guys have been through. My girl broke her arm at the same age--some complications, but, not quite as many as poor little A. I can imagine how hard it must have been to miss the Toddler's big day. You are a good mom. You are all in my prayers.
oxo

Mommy Cracked said...

I hate to hear that he has been having such a rough time of it. I will definitely keep him in my prayers.